K Jennifer, Connie, Sorry if my terms are incorrect. Let me try again.
Most of the dogs here come to me in some unruly form as I stated. My methods of teaching and corrections have worked with all but these two and my results so far have been well behaved dogs that are calm indoors, house trained, non reactionary to outside distraction etc.. basically, I say they are ready for human consumption, as I like to phase it. 3 have been returned by their adopters, but for reasons beyond the control of the dogs. things like adopter who refuse to crate the dogs, people who refuse to fairly acclimate the dogs into their already established homes etc.
Now Inters Tom. Tom was fought. Here is his first day picture.
sure looks like fight wounds to me.
So now Tom is loving, friendly, nice, loves to play and took common commands and corrections happily.
this stayed like this and we the family voted that Tom was to be OUR dog. He was then given some privileges like coming on rides to the store, visiting parks and coming to work with me on some training cases, but left in my car on those few times.
So 30 days goes by and a shelter sends me Dexter.
Dexter was very much the style of the Pit that I was trying to replace after he passed away this summer, so family loves Tom, I love the Dexter, we agree to try and keep both along with my Wheaten T. All is well until one morning when I am awoken by Tom, who got out of the crate (darn two door crates!) he is Crate fighting the new guy Dexter. I give a few verbal No's and then I go to grab tom's ever hanging leash and Dom collar. He snaps. I am in nothing but my underwear, and so I retreat, grab a dinner chair, block him and get his leash. I take Tom Off his front feet for a what I would say is at least 8 seconds, and I release. Tom continues to act aggressively toward the other cage, I attempt to correct him and SNAP! Top takes his best shot at old George here. So I then decide Tommy is going for a free ride and I use both arms to take Tom clear off the ground. Now This was necessary at his fist day with us when he again went to bite said hand that was to feed him. That time, I held him up until he was a bit lethargic. I then gently allowed him to lay at my feet and I stayed with him through his dreamy like state. That time He woke a different animal. It was his first day with us and he clearly understood that no nonsense would be tolerated.
Not This second time at the crate fight, I DID NOT hold him up as long and in turn he remained in a conscious state, able to asses what was happening. IT was at that time he has become what I keep calling fear agg. Maybe thats not the right term. lets just say that No matter what the situation, food time, moving tom out of the house, even when He chooses to approach you, any unauthorized move by you to come near him results in tom getting a look of horror in his eye and a growl to say, "whatever it is, keep it, I don't want it". Clearly his correction has damaged his confidence in me and has set me back obtaining his trust for what is not a month.
so through this,I have gaged his growl level and know when he is blowing air morso than not,and so I usually try and not back off, but to gently continue my objective, usually its some sort of touching. I do this because he clearly is growling out of fear of another unpleasant experience. So when I say "so far it works" what I mean is that Tom HAS accepted a slow hand being put on his back or an ear scratch and has discontinued pre scratch growling. On the other hand, move from scratching an ear to say blowing him a kiss sound, and yup, he is back to growling.
I am not above crating and ignoring him like he was a plant for whatever time it takes. I am not happy with my backward approach to Tom. I simply had and have fear that my correction hurt out relationship, and I didn't want to damage it further by Isolating it more corrections.
Now that I have read where the other ladies dog has felt the same hard feelings and withdrew, I fell more comfortable thinking he will come back around.
So in long/short, Tom is skittish after being choked out a bit for biting me. To confirm his fears, after that Encounter, Dexter had NEVER allowed Tom any slack after the crate thing. As I stated He got to Tom and they locked up for prob 10-15 seconds, enough to leave tom with a puncture wound, and to confirm his doubt in me his pack leader and previous pal. He no longer wants to address me and never comes by to say hi and trade a sloppy kiss for a scratch..
How would you guys start over obtaining his trust? Also when he does make a mistake like alerting to a dog, whatever, how would you go about correcting him during this skittish stage?
Now the other fella Dexter, is taking correction with the electric collar very well and a simple nick of stim redirects his mindset and he seemed to be MUCH better than he ever was command wise. His only Issue is that If he gets to stare down Tom, he will do all he can to deal with the hardest prong collar correction, Dom collar choke, elec collar on full stim, it all means nothing compared to his need to get to that dog.
Let me also add that they haven't sat in the same room since their last altercation where I realized Dex is darn serious on getting to him, and he feels almost as passionate.
I am doing the reverse of your suggestions and I do make them stay calm and quite while being crated in view of one another.
May I ask why this is a bad thing to have them even see one another?
Its these times of calm that has me confused as to why they decide to tolerate one another for days sometime, and then they seem to choose to stare one another down at other times. This staring and challenging is what I initially bought the stim collars for. I was attempting to correct the posture and leering as it surfaced. they do cut it out if you nick them early enough.
NO good?
I think It would help me best if you would not hold back. Being told I am dead wrong is OK with me. Again, I don't have the hands on experience to debate you folks. clicker training or rolling over for a treat, this aint!
I am begging for instruction myself. No worries about being polite or hurting my feelings. They are all well intentioned ideas that I am trying, and I am so grateful to have all this professional input ton help me sort out the good and bad Ideas.. So what would you do in this case? Do we get stern and isolate Tom? treat him with Kit gloves? whats the best bet for reestablishing his trust and respect? he already gets lots of one on one time in and out of here.
Also why are are the ideas you don't agree with counter productive? Better then hearing they are not correct, I rather understand why and what the dogs are thinking. Example.. The person who suggested allowing them to wrestle it out muzzled. What negative does the dog come away with? does it get them More excited to fight? I am sure the person who suggested it felt that they would be able to chin one another and maybe hash out their pack placement with no risk of wounds. I would never do it now, but what would be the negative?
I am especially interested in why they shouldn't even see one another. Thats pretty hard since its tight in here.
Thanks Folks
PS
To make like worse, I just received a Rotti who is very scared and just downs and pees when you put a hand out to him. He was taxied to me in NY from New Hampshire today. Apparently the adopter worked at a pet-co as a trainer, yet the dog ate her couch, her car seats and dashboard and even blew through his crate and two hollow wood doors. Her landlord is thrilled and threw the dog out on 24hrs notice.
Can anyone tell me a guess at his age? he is just getting a gray goatee type thingy.