Well I must start by saying that I am overwhelmed with all the replies this little post I put in a few days ago. I am more than gratefull for everyone wanting to help and sharing their dog experience with me. I must also thank Leerburg for making this possible with this website. Thank you all and especialy to you Willie that is willing to help me with Ziva. Your time is gold I know and wanting to share it with me is a God sent because Ziva is TOTALY worth it. She is not bad all the way through you know she has many qualities, I just need to know and learn how to deal with her colorfull personality.
So Willie the important question you asked me as been asked to myself over and over. You nailed it right on the head by saying that the thoughts of not getting the final results with her as I had it planned in my head when I got the puppy is totaly true. I either give up on those so called dreams and relationship or modify some of them. In moments of desperation due to my lack of knowledge on how to deal with her made me doubt the possibility to achieve a small purcentage of my goals with this dog. The only time I cried was not by frustration by not being able to accomplish something with Ziva but when the thought to let her go and returned to the breeder. So what kind of pet will she become? I know not seing the dog nor me you can't be sure on that one. But knowing that she is a hard dog....will we be able still to go places, have fun having her around? I know that she will not be able to be left alone with kids nor strangers (friends) maybe....Will she need to be in a constant structured and controled envionment? Can you tell me what you think and forsee about that?
This being said I know my habilities of getting what I want and going where I want to be. I proved it many times over the years overcoming challenges that many would say...."that is a battle I don't want to tackel". I am a persistant bitch myself and I have the love for all animals mostly for dogs and horses and an ability to comprehend their ways and modify my approach. I am an ongoing learner and a determined fighter. Like I said to my kids growing up and all athletes I worked with "The sky is the limit, is how you chose to get there that will make you proud and a good responsable individual. Don't stop dreaming cause the only deception is by not trying." (Sorry for the philosophy here, but I woke up less than one hour ago and the first thing I did is take the dog out, feed her and sit here reading all of the comments that went straight to my heart.
I will try to cover everything you are asking Willie I hope I won't miss anything if I do I either will come back to do so as I will read your message over and over but please feel free to ask again. AND I apologize in advance for the gramatical errors and typos in my message....I am French lol.
Let me start with; I do avoid all confrontation with Ziva for the past few days. I am trying to stay as cool as a cucumber and even by being firm I don't persist I always give her the choice to comply though before myself acting upon it. But I do not persist for her to comply other then the basic commands sit, laydown, go to the carpet. As soon that she starts jumping and biting I must say that I take her calmly to her crate and she willingly goes in when I anticipate a confrontation situation. Like the neighbour's dog, our meal time where I have to constantly repeat "go to the carpet", or when she is showing plain stobborness. I also noticed that lately as soon as she smells my private parts she starts acting up. Am I making this up? However, it is with regret that she spends a lot of time in her crate lately. But I figure untill I will know how to deal with her there is no need to make things worst so so far that has been my way of handle things.
Equipment and tools: right now for walks (she is great on the leash for walks, she heels well with the few reminders no to get to far ahead of me, sits when I stop mostly automaticaly and had stoped pulling and reacting to dogs barking behind their fences) so for walks she wares a double layred flat chain Martingale. In the house from wakie time to bed time a flat nylon collar on a 10 feet steel line covered with rubber. BTW I thinks she hates that line. I have had episodes where she was acting up with the 10lb puffy white ball of a dog our neighbours have and redirected her frustation of the line on me. And I noticed that when I pick it up (not always) she bites it and THEN nipps and jump on me. I don't jerk it, I use it to have a hold of her and avoid to touch her directly....I don't know if I am being clear here. The other tool is the crate. She loves it, when she is calm she often goes in it herself to sleep with the door open. Which is actualy the case now as I type this novel.
As per your comments: PACK STRUCTURE: That is my puzzel right there and one of my most concern, is how to be her Alfa in a way that she will accept it? I believe once that is accomplished she will be a different dog and all of the other few problems will be easyer to deal with and be corrected. Am I right?
Even though she is mostly obedient I can see in her eyes that she doesn't respect me fully. That is a blow bellow the belt for me. Your are talking about "ancient" type. If I understand this correctly you are suggesting that she has the ancient breeding LGD genetics in her. I wrote the breeder asking how were her sibblings. Apparently from the news she has, they are not at all behaving like Ziva......BUT I remember seing pictures of them as litter mates and videos and Ziva was always on top of the pile when they were sleeping, she was the one bugging the others to play, she was often the one on top bitting the others. Now I look at it and I think she was the bully and the one probably getting to the mother first at feeding. HUM!!! We have met Ziva's mother and cousins and uncles and aunts (the breeder has 7 of them as family pets. They rotate them inside) Gentle dogs, jumping on people to greet them though, but I thought that was just a lack of education from the part of the owners.....different views of how a dog should be educated I guess. Not one growl from neither of them, playfull, great with kids.....like the 2 Kuvasz I have met in 1985 when I first met the breed and though back then "I want one of those". BTW I haven't met the father.
You are talking of a working home.....I need explaination on how to accomplish that task. Presently I am not working......for how long? I don't know but untill July for sure.
I think I should list the problems I have with Ziva so you get it clearly and from the horses' mouth so to speak.
1- Jumping and bitting; hands, thighs, belly and even when I turn my back to show no interest my butt. That happens when we (I) tell her "NO" and that she doesnt want to comply to stop what ever she was doing, or after shoving her nose between my legs....funny as it may sound....It started 1 month ago by bitting the air and showing teeth and came to actual bitting. And my 12y.o. step son.when she greets him I don't think aggression is the problem with the bitting with my step son only excitment like when she greets people jumping from excitment....at this point I either have her on the line in the sit position. When people come in I ask them not to pay attention to her.....when she is calm I let them come and say hi....OR I have her in the crate until the movement of new comers stop and that she is calm in her crate....let her out and usualy she smells them and lay down somewhere further from us.
2- Growling at whom ever even the cats that passes by when she eats. There is an hystory behind that that I think you need to know. When Ziva came at 8 weeks I started from day1 have her to sit and wait the "OK" word to get to the bowl. Of course she was little and the waiting period was 2 seconds maybe. Then, stupid of me I would sometime walk by and saying "YUMMY that is good" and pass my hand over her.....she would growl, and it escalated with the cats walking by, then with us just walking by to the point where she would take her nose out from the bowl and growl while looking in a 45° angle at us. All of that Willie within 3 weeks. I kept her bowl and her food on top of the fridge for easyer access back then and one day she blocked me from entering the kitchen by growling and nipping the air. Hum I though this is a problem that will become dangerous. So I called a so call behaviorist in our area and he suggested to take the food away when that happened.....well let me tell you I followed that advice only for 2 days.....she became stressed, tail tucked under, ears back, her body was ridgid and eating so damn fast......so first I took the bowl and food to the garage. So there was no need for her to take possesion of the area. That seemed to have solved that problem as she is no longer showing any signs of not wanting us in the kitchen anymore. Secondly she is no longer even allowed in the kitchen...we have put a imaginary line for her to obbey and she is pretty good now with that. But it is an ongoing reminding process but there is no resistance from her part. Then I put the bowl on the ground and left her eat it and not disturbing her not even a look. But the problem was still there....So I got in touch on skype with Val DeSantis from Colorado that has suggested a) never take the food away and b) to feed her me holding the bowl in both hands (build bond). I have been doing that for 4 weeks now.....and she is calm while eating, tail and ears relaxed, she takes her nose out of the bowl to chew or pick up what ever fell on the floor and occasionaly licks my hand when finished. This morning however, the cat walked by and so my husband and she growled and quickly finished......so I am thinking to feed her in the crate now. What are your thoughts on that?
3- Breaking the heeling position on walks to jump on pedestrians that we cross on our walks....she jumps and want attention.....I am trying the same method I used for the dogs barking behind their fences on that but it seems harder as these people are closer to us but it is better. I have been taking her everywhere until a few weeks ago. She loves people and other dogs (except this little dog next door) but her need to jump on them makes it very tireing for me she weighs more than 60lbs now and me 120lbs....But not taking her anywhere is not the solution.....I should expose her to people.....Obedience classes maybe? I am reluctant about that because after doing research the methode used mostly here is with a choker chain and old school.....I don't want to do that....and secondly me being out of work right now it is not possible for another few monts.....any thing in between I could do? Take my courage in both hands and take her out to town, struggle until she stop jumping and finaly enjoying the outings?.....I might have to do just that and forget that I look like a fool while struggeling with her and concentrate as it being part of the process.....hum.
I get it and understand it that more work needed here then anticipated.....but if I can make this a good dog and us having a good relationship I will do it.....I have seen to many dogs mistreated due to misunderstanding and lack of knowledge from the human part.....I don't want her to end up in a place where she will be totaly unhappy and ending up being misunderstood.....If I have the ability to ME make the change in how I handle this she will be happy and we will have fun right?...I wanted to do agility with her, will that be possible?.....I think and repeat myself here....once the pack ranking is established things will change.....correct me if I am wrong.
I will end this....anyway I have to go for a walk lol.....but let me say Willie that I will make my final decision after reading your reply.....But I mus admit that I am not settle with the idea to give up just yet. I have been looking for answers for the past 2 months when it all started as what many would have seen as puppy stuff.....but it is hard to find 1- people that are willing to help, 2- people that know the breed and 3- accepting the fact that I have no money to give back.
Please accept my most profound anticipated thanks with your help. You probably will change the future of this dog and my present with her.
Lots of huggies Willie
Solange