Just my opinion but I think info given in private messages should be just that, private.

And I do want to point out that it took Tracy all of two seconds to find breed specific rescues. Several posters asked where she was located in order to offer help in rehoming the dog.

Regardless, one thing I learned from my mother that there is always 3 sides to the story, her side, his side, and somewhere what really happened, I think the vast majority of the board agree that the dog needs to be rehomed.

If the individual thinks the rehoming is for the dog's safety or that of the children is pretty immaterial I think.

 Quote: Betty Waldron

Regardless, one thing I learned from my mother that there is always 3 sides to the story, her side, his side, and somewhere what really happened, .

She taught you well!

 Quote: Tammy Moore

 Quote: Betty Waldron

Regardless, one thing I learned from my mother that there is always 3 sides to the story, her side, his side, and somewhere what really happened, .

She taught you well!

All those slaps on the back of my head really brought her lessons home.

 Quote: Betty Waldron

Just my opinion but I think info given in private messages should be just that, private.

You are right, Betty. It would have been wiser for me to keep that to myself.

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 Quote: Betty Waldron

Just my opinion but I think info given in private messages should be just that, private.

You are right, Betty. It would have been wiser for me to keep that to myself.

When you care about people and dogs it's easy to get caught up in the moment.

Many a day I have to get down and thank God for the delete button. Now if I could only find one for my mouth life would be good.........

Thank you all that have commented on this fictitious post that someone real may or may not have posted. I did not sign up and wait two days to become a member for people to think I made this stuff up. I also didn't come on here to have people say my marriage was shitty prior to the dog showing up. I am not a dog lover, maybe one too many snaps at when I was a child who did not grow up with a dog. I have been snapped at by our dog, my husband was home when two of the three biting incidents happened, and he has seen the marks. The dog bite photos that I was sending him were of horrendous bites where a dog attacks a child's face, neck or back to the point of needing stitches. Our daughter has not needed stitches and I was able on all three occassions able to clean the wound and continue to put ointment on it so it didn't become infected or have more problems. I don't think it's important where I am, because if my husband isn't willing to take the dog to a shelter, I am not going to be the one that does that either. He is talking to a friend who is a huge animal lover on things he can do. She said to leave the dog outside when I am home (which I do because if you know anything about kids 15 months apart, I don't have time for much else). She said to keep them seperated when the girls are awake, easy when I am around, not so when DH is home, because the dog barks constantly (only when he is home) and he doesn't like that. Also perhaps my SIL will take the dog back with her when she comes home (she lives several states away) so I can't just drive her over there or I certainly would. Also back to my marriage, my husband and I went to counseling when we had a 7 month old and discovered we were pregnant again. We hadn't planned on having two so close together and we were a little more than stressed over the prospect of a single income with 2 little ones. For now, I continue to talk to him. He knows something needs to be done, but I need him to be okay with what happens as well. If he thinks I pushed him in to it, it will do nothing for us as a couple. Obviously there are a lot of very wonderfully holier than though people on this site who have never had issues. I came in to this relationship with the knowledge that my husband never wanted a dog either. However....life happens and his dad died. He died in an accident at a fairly rough time. This was 6 months after we buried my young Brother in law, and a year after his dad died we buried his step dad. NO ONE on here NO ONE can comment on my life because they dont know me or our circumstances. I am sure if you asked my husband, his point of view would be completely different because he is a different person around at different times (when I am home as well to take care of the kids) I am the only one that has two little kids and a dog to deal with by myself.

Well, you did ask. And a couple of dozen people who have no dog in this fight took the time to think about your situation, offer suggestions, or at least give you a different perspective.

We suggested re-homing the dog. But you won't do that.
We suggested specific techniques you could employ to start training the dog. But you won't (or can't) do that. (Which I understand; raising two little kids is plenty to do.)

Everyone here can sense what a messed up, tense situation is going on in your home. And no one here would argue that the safety of your children is the highest priority of all. For that alone you do have our sympathy.

So, what is it that we can do to help? Specifically? Or is sympathy enough?

Perfect summation, Tracy.

I just can't read any more of this. If I can do anything to help rehome the dog: foster, transport, or help fund a rescue, please let me know.

Cindy,
I am going to throw my hat into the ring.
I also had a dog who did not like children. This dog was a stray my husband brought home from work as it was literally dumped off in front of him.
We had the dog 5 yrs before we had children and we knew from her reaction to our friend's children that she was not and never would be a kids dog.

How I dealt with it?
The kids were simply told "The dog doesn't like you, stay away from her". Period.
My children were not allowed to pet,grab, or interract with her in any way.
Belle lived to the ripe old age of 15 with NEVER an incident.
My girls learned from infancy to respect her space, and she in turn respected thiers.
It could work for you but I think you choose not to have it work because you simply do not like dogs, and that's ok. Just be honest.
I hope this little dog gets a happy ending as well as you and your family.

Cindy, I'm sorry for your situation. You have 3 options:

1)Rehome the dog to a person/couple with no kids. Least amount of work for you.

2)Make your home safe for your children and the dog by keeping the dog separated from your kids. Not isolated, but separated. Baby gates are good tools for this. At the same time get your husband to accept some responsibility for this dog by taking over his care whenever possible. That means getting up 20 or 30 minutes earlier to give the dog a walk, feeding the dog, and walking/playing with the dog in the evening. Is this too much to ask of him?

3)Put the dog to sleep. Is this really an option??

(ps the dog in my sig pic also is not kid-friendly. This is not such an uncommon thing and can be managed successfully if you have the will to do it)