Tracy Collins Webboard User Reg: 10-09-2008
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Here are links to at least three organizations that may be able to help rescue your rat terrier. The third listing has links by state. There IS a situation out there that would provide a home for this little dog that would allow her to live the remaining years of her life somewhere that she is wanted.
My husband and I have done marriage counseling, and while our marriage is not perfect, the dog does causes us to fight over it and have more problems. However once my children came in to my life they are always going to be put first ecspecially when this dog in all the years I've known her never liked me. I know there are ways to keep the kids and dogs safe...help me to learn what they are and how to convince my husband that we need to do these. We have a kennel (shoved under a shelving unit that has never been used), we have a huge dog run outside. I am willing to try things, my husband however would never kennel the dog and even has a hard time keeping her in another area of the house. He doesn't believe that the dog would ever hurt his chilren even with the three broken skin bites we have had so far.
We had the dog for almost 1 1/2 years before we had children and she would bark and growl at me and barely tolerated me no matter what I tried to do to get her to like me. (she never got along with anyone-my family or his)
Once again out of fairness to the dog it doesn't sound like you really liked her from day one either. Dogs can sense that sort of thing.
I'm with Tracy - can you tell us your general location so we might be able to help you come up with a person or rescue group to take the dog?
My husband says he will not give the dog away. I think he would change his mind if it was someone we and the dog knew, but even then might be hard. Am I wrong to think the dog needs a new home when it already has bitten dd 3 times and snaps at her on an almost daily basis (even when she is no where near her). I feel like some of you think I should keep the dog and not worry about my kid. I need ways to help get my husband to realize that this dog is not stable in our family.
Actually, you do get my sympathy that your husband would tell you to leave and take the children rather than work with you on a solution to keep his children safe. SHAME on him. The dog is not to blame - he is.
In addition, your husband isn't treating the dog any better than his kids...tossing him down in a basement by himself after being outside by himself all day - this is no life for the dog either!
I'm going to be blunt here... this situation is simply a symptom of a much greater problem - without even touching the topic of your marriage, I think it is safe to say the man you chose to father your children is not up to the task. There should be no need of "convincing" him his babies are his first priority.
Personally, I think packing up the two babies and going home to mom is a good idea. JMHO. I'm very sorry you are having to deal with this, but at least you now know where you stand.
No, none of this is fair to the dog either, and I know many others will give you suggestions on how to deal with that issue.
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Print out this thread and show it to your husband. Maybe if he is aware of just how much you want the dog gone to the point where you are trying to do it behind his back he will consider rehoming the dog.
I will try to get my husband to join this discussion board. I would love for him to be able to train the dog to finish out her life in our home (no matter how much I don't want the dog around our children), but I don't see it happening. My father in law never trained her because he often had to put her in his truck or the garage if people stopped to visit. If it was only my decision I would be calling the local safe haven shelter and driving her over there. However I really am just looking for ways to either do something with her myself to make the situation work, or ways for my husband to realize that not all dogs are good in all situations and that there has to be a better situation for both the dog and us.
Tracy Collins Webboard User Reg: 10-09-2008
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Nobody here thinks you should not worry about your kid. Kids come first, even among dog people.
You are not wrong to think the dog needs a new home. That's different than how this conversation started, though, when you were looking for ways to get rid of her.
If your husband is unwilling to re-home her, then this is a simple matter of limiting access between the kids and the dog. It won't be easy, but it's do-able. And it doesn't sound like much of a life for anybody in that house.
I think the thing to say your husband is this: clearly the dog is not happy here. Snapping at the children not only puts the kids at risk, but it puts the dog at risk as well (of being destroyed by authorities.) If he loves the dog, he will want her to be in a situation where she can be more relaxed and happy, and that isn't something you can provide in your household. His late father (I think) would think it more important for the dog to be happy than to be living with a family member where she was not doing well.
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