I can sorta see where she's coming from. You didn't give her ANY say in the matter, just showed up with the pup. She's probably just mad at you, and is taking it out on the pup.

You *should have* gotten her involved with getting a pup, asked for her input, asked what she thought of x and y dogs...did she even want a puppy? Does she like dogs?

Say your wife went out and bought a car without saying a word to you...wouldn't you be mad? Same idea, but the car isn't in the house with you, barking, chewing stuff up, or pissing on the floor. This dog is going to be with you for years, and the whole time she might resent it, just because you didn't involve her.

Not really sure what to tell you, about how to fix the problem. You could offer to get rid of the dog if she really doesn't like it that much. But only do this if she's the type that won't let you, you don't REALLY want to get rid of it! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Getting her involved will probably help, let her help with training the pup, like the others said.

My husband gets jealous of our/my dogs. And he REALLY hates them (well, mostly just the puppy) when she chews something up (like his $100 Oakleys) or has accidents, or when they won't leave the cat alone, etc. Make sure you don't allow the pup to chew anything important up, and try to avoid accidents. Every night, how about you try to put the dogs away in a separate room for an hour or so and watch a movie or something, spend some time alone together so she doesn't get so jealous.

I would KILL my husband if he ever did anything like that, but mostly just because I doubt he could a dog of the quality that I'd need. But even if he did find an awesome pup, I'd be pretty pissed that I wasn't included in the decision. I'd get over it pretty quickly as long as the pup was awesome, but it's still something that should be discussed. I wouldn't ever get a pup without consulting him first, he's gotta feel needed <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I don't know how much of a dog lover your wife is, but just give it some time. Maybe she'll grow to love the pup, or maybe she'll hate it forever. If that's the case, then it might not be worth it to keep the dog...but then you'll resent her forever. Have you tried to talk to your wife about it? Tell her you shouldn't have gotten the dog without her, how sorry you are, all that good stuff. Or how about suprising her and doing something really nice for her. And then apologizing.

Don't know if any of this will help, but you really shouldn't have brought the pup home without her input, and now you gotta deal with the consequences!

I have the same problem Randy and I took great lengths to get my wife's input about what kind of dog SHE'D like to have. Fortunately for me, she liked Dutch shepherds best of all the working dogs like I do.
There are times when she loves that dog to bits.... treats her like a baby.... cuddles with her, tells her how much she loves her, tell ME how happy she is the wa have her. Other times she beeyatches at me about every little thing she does, especially when I am spending too much time with "Daddy's Little Girl".
I offered to get her a male that she could make a Mama's boy out of and got nowhere fast.
The best advice I can give is to simply be patient and roll with it.

I am finding that the ratio of women in dog sports is out numbering the men in my area. I'm talking about dedicated trainers and competitors. I think a fully trained sport dog may give women a better sense of security than one does for men. More women use their dogs for a sense of protection (in the house, loose in the car, etc..) than I see men do. This OPINION may be helpful in sharing a great hobby with her.

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Originally posted by Randy Baysinger Sr.:
Just a question to shoot out here (bang) hehe
Some times she gets on to me making sure I feed her, then the next time she's bitching me out for spending to much time with her. Any input output out there?

You reference the exact problem in the first sentence of the quote. Why should she ever have to worry about feeding the dog. Its your dog and you brought it home without any input from her. My bet is she's upset because she has to spend some time taking care of something she doesn't want to or wasn't expecting to. Things like muddy feet, dog hair, washing toys, etc. She is right if that's the reason. If she brought home 17 plants and expected you to feed and water them you probably wouldn't like the plants and would resent the space they took up in the house too.

If she brought home a poodle and surprised you would you like it if you had to groom it? <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Wonderfully put, I agree with above post from Bruce.

I really thank everyone for the inputs, But Bruce I've taken care of Bianca (my dog) everything. she hasn't had to do anything with the dog. To answer some of the questions,,,I had Bianca in the house in short times, my wife tryed to pet her but Bianca just moved away and went to me. VanCamp your statement <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Rolls me over. I beleive most of the problem started two years ago when we built this new house and I said "Their won't be any dogs or cats in this house!" well I brought the dog in the first day I got her and Deanna I've had this wife for 25 years <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> sometimes I've thought of it <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> But agian thanks for the input, I'll probley get her a dog she likes, a pickanees I think thats how it's spelled.

Maybe get her a gift certificate to the animal shelter so she can go pick out her own cute lap thing? I know a couple of people who have done this (only it was for their kids). Coming home with ANOTHER dog and saying that it's hers might not help any <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> .

Thanks Lauren, We got into a big one tonight about how much I feed her. You all judge. (This is gooing to bee good) Ok. 6:30am I feed her (10 months old) 4 cups of Dryed dood food. 12:30pm another 4 cups and a vitamin. We are talking about a 10 month old GSD working blood line from germany. She looks good and full of spunk when I"m training her, My wife says I'm starving (it) by not feeding (it) at night. Imput please <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

That seems like MORE than I would feed. Does she understand that it is very important to keep the young dog as slim as possible to help prevent bone/joint issues as (it) matures?


Dog's don't need three squares a day. I feed my dogs, who are very healthy, exactly once a day in the evening time. 2 Xs a day is plenty for the 10 month old.

I used to run into this with my parents. Some people think that dogs beg because they haven't eaten recently. If that's the problem then just give 3 meals a day for a few days (same # of cups, just spread out) and she will realize that this isn't the case. I think this is more of an issue of how often instead of how much. Feeding more meals per day won't hurt (unless it cuts into evening training time) and it might help her realize that some dogs will always act hungry.

I would say that Auster (70 lb adult) gets about 4 cups a day between cottage cheese, kibble (Cal. Natural), and home made (a.k.a. leftovers, but I do cook stuff especially to share). Sometimes more kibble and less homemade if I like what she is getting <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> .