Theresa,

I know what you're going through. I started the "Crate Training in Hell" thread a few months back. Feel free to search for it. Anyway, as a person who had a horrible time crate training, I promise it will get better, even though I hated hearing that advice when I was going through it. He will settle down in time. I found paying any attention to my pup when he was whining only re-enforced the whining. That included fingers in the crate.

As far as the peeing in the crate is concerned here's what I did:
1- make the area in the crate just big enough for your pup to lay down without being scrunched up.
2- Pick up water at least 2 hours before the pups bedtime.
3- Take the pup out right before bed.
4- Set your alarm for 4 hours. Take the pup out BEFORE he can create the mess.
5- Reset your alarm if you plan to sleep for more than 4 more hours.
6- When he pees outside, praise him like he just saved you from a burning building.
7- I always brought my pup right back into the crate after coming in.

I think the guideline is that every month is an hour + 1 for bladder control. So a 12wk old (3mo) could go 4 hours. Adjust your times accordingly. Eventually, you'll want to increase the time he goes in between pee breaks, or you'll start to train his bladder to go a certain time. I fell into that trap. At 4 hours, my pup knew he was supposed to go out, even if he could have held it longer...

Good luck,
Christian

OH My ... The day after my last post he went into his crate and didnt even whine at all at bedtime and from then on. He even will run and hide when hes being chased around by my Pug. And he will go in without prompting when he sleepy. We will see how the rest of it goes. thanks all for the support