Quote: Michael McGee

I saw in the video with the clicker training when it looks like he (ed) has the puppy tied to his feet and he is working with him. So you do that 1st? or the “aloof” crate training? The videos have been a huge help getting things ready, I guess im just little unsure of afew things.

Guess im just worried about messing up day 1
Michael

Michael, I think you have to combine the two. The crate will be used from day one as the pup's safe haven and for quiet time, and to give you a break from the pup when you can't supervise directly.
If there was one thing I would do differently, it would be to have tethered my pup to me when she was very young. This eliminates a lot of problems right from the beginning because the pup can't get into too much trouble when it's tethered to you and it sends a clear message to the pup that you are the one that is in control.
Check out the link that Maisha provided and read Michelle Mcatee's response there; she gives a good description of the balance between fun and establishing leadership w/ your pup.
As far as your 4 year old, interaction should be under your constant and direct supervision, keeping in mind that puppy teeth are like needles!
Good luck and post a pic when you bring your new pup home...

Michael,
You have received great advice here, and the only thing I would add is that this is a GREAT opportunity to start teaching your 4 year old what behavior you expect from them with the dog right away.

I would keep them separate until the puppy has proper acclimation time and then slowly introduce the two.
You can have your child help you prepare meals (not give to the dog though), fill the water dish, wipe the crate out while you are walking the puppy for potty breaks and things like that.

Once puppy is acclimated then I would slowly introduce them. Teach your child how to be calm and quiet around puppy as running and loud noises may either excite the puppy or spook the puppy. Once the initial introduction is over, then I would teach how to give the puppy treats.

And, make the rule that interaction can happen only if you are there to supervise and you have control of the pup.

All of my dogs are introduced to my grandson first. He is 5 now and I do not even really have to remind him of how to be anymore. He is calm and quiet and when he comes to visit, his favorite thing it to fill all the water buckets (through the fence with the hose) and give all the dogs a bully stick.
My Dutch and him are joined at the hip when he is over or we go and visit.

I am really proud of Cole since when we first started out, he got into trouble for not listening about the dogs. His want to be around them overcame his naughtiness though and he is now a great little man around all dogs. My Dutch listens to him better than me at times.....