Chastity,

It's not the dog. It's the control. Next it will be something else. Trust me...been there...done that.

I agree with Theresa. It does not sound like Kane is the root of the problem. Sounds like your husband is into controlling your every move and having your attention focused on him. Insecurity big-time! My brother's ex did this to him...first the dog, then his friends, then kicked him and their 4 y/o son out. I'm sure there are some things your husband does that maybe you don't care much for...? Ask him how he would feel if you asked him to give those up. Then tell him that it's important for him to accept your dog, whether he "likes" Kane or not, he's part of the family and your husband is supposed to be the adult/human...not an immature child throwing temper tantrums when he does not get his way.

I am very fortunate that my husband loves dogs....explains why we have four now. He recently told me that when our kids are grown and gone, he wants to sell the house, move out to the country where we can get more land and have room to foster more rescued Goldens and a "senior farm" for the ones who are too old to adopt out. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> Holy cow! He floored me with that one! So much for my beach shack in Sanibel... <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Thank you all for your replies. I agree that there is more to it than the dog Im sure but like Curtis says... I am not willing to get a divorce over a dog. I love Kane dearly but my family, my husband and two children, mean more to me. We have been together for 10 years but only married 1 month! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />
I too think that maybe if we had better communication and maybe some special attention towards him maybe it would be better. He will not ask me to give Kane up, so I dont have to worry about that.

Curtis thank you for sharing your experience. Sorry you had to lose two dogs but things are better for you and your wife, and now shes ready for a new memeber to add to the family. I too have a two year old and a 7 year old. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I would not get a divorce over a dog. Now if we were just starting out with each other and we didn't have kids then it may enter my mind but I have too much to lose.

Again thank you... all of you for sharing your experiance and advice. Lets me know Im not in the dark. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

i feel for you guys my wife has a major problem and it is a pure jeolosy issue.

i sat down and a heart to black coal <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />(you have to know my wife) talk with her and now she is more tolerant of my training schedual.

she actually thought i liked the dog more than her.


(man if she only knew) <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

years ago I almost lost my marraige, not because of the dogs but because of giving myself to everyone in the family BUT me. At some point you need to do the things that make you happy.

My husband and I now have a better relationship. He tolerates the dogs (and even ocassionally hides for me) and I tolerate his political activism (and sometimes even go to an event with him). We have a different circle of friends but are spending about an hour and a half a day together (without dogs) walking and talking. That is hard to do with kids and easier now that ours are grown, but I think having special time together is imporant -- but we don't really even have the same friends or interests....I am very careful to restrict my requests for his help with the dogs to times when I cannot (i.e., business trips) and then don't expect more than basic care and excercise.

I do agree though, it is important to do something for you that gives you joy. It is too easy for a wife and mother to give herself away only to find out that her personality got lost in the giving.