Kristel Smart Webboard User Reg: 10-03-2006
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Yeah, I'm with you. I am a single mom, but still the undisputed queen of the castle here....long may I reign
I say I'm 'lucky' because I have a pretty terrific teenage daughter (almost 18 at this point), but there weren't a lot of options to be otherwise around the animals when she was growing up. She could take direction, or stay out of the kennel/barn. Period. It never came to that, but I was more than ready to enforce the 'my way or the highway' rule if it became necessary. It was a matter of basic safety for us that my daughter respected and took seriously.
The notion that she would have the opportunity to undermine me...not a possibility.
With dogs as in life, somebody has to run the show. I enjoy being the Queen.
With all due respect, I'm not going to much defend my position as a mother to someone with no kids. But for the record, I have raised 4 boys (my oldest is 24, and currently getting a master's at Cambridge in the UK, so he doesn't live with us.) I rule with an iron fist on most fronts, but wanted to the dog to be a place of common ground. They DO spend a lot of time with her--they do walk her, they do take her out at night without exception, they take her to play. They remain involved with her, which is why their attitude can be so frustrating.
Sometimes one just needs a kick in the arse to get back on track. This thread has lots of advice I can heed. There's understanding here of these things with teenagers, and some knocks on me. That's OK, I know that this is not a warm and fuzzy place. You guys made me laugh too. It's righted my thinking in relation to the dog, and I appreciate that! So thanks. It's the redirection I was looking for.
HA! Dennis, my husband does the same. All internet access is turned off at 10 pm weeknights, 11 pm weekends. They hate it. We say, tough you-know-what!
So what's the problem? Sounds like a nice dog and a nice family. I have good obedience on my dogs and it can't be undermined by others. When people play with them they're on their own, i warn them once that they'll start acting like dogs really fast...
Am i the only guy that let's his dogs be dogs most of the time?
My dogs know they have to listen to me. They've also figured out that most others are optional.
I found it very hilarious when my then 11 y/o brother brought my then 2 y/o Border Collie out of his kennel when I was working with my other dog. He couldn't handle the dog (no surprise there) and was going to just leave the dog with me and go back in. I made him chase the dog around til he could catch him and stick him back in his kennel. It took the brother several minutes, then when the dog finally got caught he just sat down and refused to budge. The brother always asked first after that.
Kristel Smart Webboard User Reg: 10-03-2006
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Quote: Mara Jessup
My dogs know they have to listen to me. They've also figured out that most others are optional.
Yup, same deal here. My dog is a very good boy...for me. He's a total pill for pretty much anyone else. It means nobody really bothers with him, which is nice.
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