When I got jay I new she was a little different.
She sat in the back of the cage away from everyone else.
Well this is not a problem more like a worrie.
She is very timid around people dogs cats ect everything pretty much. She is fine with phoenix but thats it.
When I take her somewhere like the park or even outside she hides behind me the whole time she is even scared of my husband.
The only other person she likes is my real good friend.
Oh she also loves kids as long as there young.
I really don't know how to help her. I dont want her to live her life in fear I have been doing the treat thing with stengers.
But she still will crawl to them to get the treat what else can i do to help this girl.

Go slow with this pup and using the "treat machine" technique like you are but have the person giving the treats get low to the ground by kneeling. Do not allow them to bend over the top of her as this can be taken as a dominant posture and a submissive dog will react like you are describing.

Also, let her approach the people with the treats. Do not allow them to approach her as this will create pressure or stress on the pup, possibly creating a fear biter. It is better to allow her to approach as she sees fit.

The pup needs to not be showing submissive gestures to get the treat. Therefore, have the person kneel, allow the pup to approach and watch for ears up, tail out from inbetween legs and a relaxed body posture. The person does not talk to or make eye contact with the pup while she is checking them out, and then whe n they finally treat the pup, have them talk softly and quietly to her. "Good girl", "That's it". Once the treat is given, and the pup is relaxed, make sure you walk away with the puppy first, before the person stands up. This can gradually change, but someone suddenly standing before the pup is ready may spook her and you will have to start all over again.

When people come to your house, and even you hubby, make sure they just ignore the pup and allow her to make contact or check them out.

You want the interactions to be calm, quiet and positive. No sudden movements or loud talking.

She will learn that people are okay and nothing to be afraid of, but she may never be an outgoing friendly pup.

Thank you I do not mind her not being out going and friendly.
I just want her to interact.
I will start having them bend down.
She is doing a lot better on eating also

She has a long way to go like my vet said a little tlc many more questions to come.
I am also getting her a therapy dog in training vest.
Everyone wants to pet her so I will so she is in training.
Which she will be soon.

Thanks

It is not to early to start with the "Who Can Pet My Puppy" scenarios. Right now I would only use people you know and people who can follow your instructions.

Little Em is sharp, so we do a lot of walking around town and I set it up before hand by going into stores and delivering treats before we walk. The employees that have treats change all the time so she never really knows who will have them and now she approaches everyone with a happy tail and ears up.

Big men she is still a bit shy of and also men with cowboy hats. So these people are asked to bend down and remove their hats.

It pays off to go in and set scenarios up for the dog, that way everyone involved knows what to do before the puppy even enters the scene.

Patience!!!!!!!
Use Phenoix to help her gain her confidence.
My pup looks to my boxer so I used that to help him gain confidence.

I have to step in and disagree with using another dog to build confidence in a puppy(or any other dog).

Why?

Because you want the pup to trust YOU. Pups automatically look to other dogs - same species. She needs to build a bond with you and trust you. Sure having a dog around another dog can help with a nervous or shy pup or adult dog but separate them in a stressful situation and you will see why the dog needs to learn early to trust a human. Leaving a nervous or uncertain dog with other dogs, all you are doing is creating a doggy, pack oriented dog(a dog that is only/mostly comfortable when its doggy buddies are around), you are not creating an outgoing or generally stable dog. The dog/pup needs to learn to trust you, the human/alpha/handler/owner etc and to cope/deal with stress away from other dogs.

Otherwise I agree with Carols advice (I skimmed over). I have to get going but I will come back and read thoroughly later and add anything I can think of.

Stephanie, I would read both of Carol's posts carefully and follow them..... and especially the parts about allowing the puppy to approach the stranger or other fearfukl person and not having them approach, look at, or speak to the puppy.

Calm, no baby talk, no excitement, no forced "encounters" --- and yes, absolutely, total confidence in *you* to remain in charge and collected.

What can I do about my hubby.
He is home all the time and she will stay at my side or behind me when he gets up. For the next 3 weeks
She also will go play with him outside though.
I really don't understand it.

Does she play outside with your hubby when you're not outside with them, or do you have to be there?

What kind of games or play does your hubby do with her that engages her and causes her to interact with him? Does he try playing the same way with her in the house?

I am normally not out there.
She will play fetch, chase him, and get in his lap if he is sitting down.
He does try in the house but she will just sit bye me and get scared if he comes near.